Sometimes, children come home from school with big questions. Maybe they saw a classmate have a seizure, or maybe they’ve just learned that someone they know has epilepsy. As a parent, it might feel easier to change the subject or say “don’t worry about it.” But these are moments when children are curious, and it’s a great time to help them learn and understand.

Talking to kids about epilepsy doesn’t have to be scary or complicated. In fact, children are more open and accepting than we expect—they just need honest and simple answers.

Start by explaining that epilepsy is a condition that affects the brain. You can say something like, “Everyone’s brain sends messages to help their body do things. For someone with epilepsy, sometimes those messages get mixed up, and that causes a seizure.”

Let them know that a seizure is not something to fear, but it’s important to help or get an adult if they see someone having one. Reassure them that epilepsy is not contagious, and having a seizure doesn’t mean a person is “weird” or “bad.” It’s just something their brain does sometimes.

If your own child has epilepsy, answering their questions calmly and clearly can help them feel more confident and safe. Be open about what might happen, what steps you or others will take to help, and what they can do if they feel a seizure coming on.

For children who have seen a classmate have a seizure, it helps to remind them that the best thing they can do is stay calm, get help, and be kind. Children often want to help but may not know how.

Don’t shy away from the conversation. When you answer questions honestly and with care, you help your child become more understanding and supportive—not just now, but for life.

If breaking down epilepsy to your kids is something you find hard, read them Abigail Has Epilepsy by Monique Lycette. This is a wonderful children’s book that teaches kids about epilepsy and what happens when someone has a seizure. It also helps them learn what to do if a classmate ever has a seizure at school. It’s a kind and gentle way to start an important conversation.